A lot of people in recovery have a predisposition to isolate. We do this for many reasons. We may feel shame or guilt for our behaviours when we were drinking or using, we may fear being around people, places and things that could trigger our addiction, or we may isolate simply because it is familiar […]
People in recovery can sometimes be their own worst enemies. For me personally, I became something of an expert at sabotaging my own sobriety. When I was drinking, I used alcohol to numb or get rid of uncomfortable or negative feelings. It was the first sign of self-sabotage – it helped me temporarily escape my […]
I believe that being responsible means doing what needs to be done, when it needs to be done. It means setting priorities and taking action on them. When we are responsible, we don’t postpone a task because it makes us uncomfortable, or it is something we really don’t want to do. We live up to […]
I have learned since coming back into recovery is that I have to accept myself for who I am. I had to truly accept that I am an alcoholic. In the beginning, this proved to be depressing, especially when I thought about others who could have that “one drink” when I knew I could never […]
Often it is heard that recovery is a painful process. I hear people talk about how difficult it is. How it is difficult to start all over from nothing. How their relationships have been destroyed, they are unemployed, they are in debt. I also hear that it takes a long time, and a lot of […]
Unfortunate are those who were never touched by the wonder of love. Unfortunate are those for whom the whole world revolves around themselves. Unfortunate are those who cannot find the strength to forgive. Unfortunate are those who had the opportunity to help others and never took it. Unfortunate are those whose words are bigger than […]
“When people are grateful for what they have, they will experience a great deal of happiness in their life.” I sincerely believe this. People who constantly complain about or focus on what they don’t have must have a difficult time finding any peace or serenity in their lives. Gratitude, for me, means being grateful for […]
Humility – a reality check! We hear the words “empowerment” and “assertiveness” so often these days that humility or humbleness can be forgotten or considered a weakness. The word “humility” means many different things to different people. To me, it means knowing my own strengths while understanding and admitting to my own weaknesses. It has […]
A person with a deflated ego undermines their own self-worth with negative self-talk. They rely on self-deception and the opinion of others to make themselves feel anything close to good. They take things personally and try to take credit for the deeds of others. Their drive for recognition and praise leads to arrogance and grandiosity. […]
Our ego itself is basically who we are, how we self-identify but when it becomes exaggerated or over-inflated, it becomes a negative characteristic. Someone with an over-inflated ego doesn’t really listen to their friends or their work colleagues or value their opinion. They place themselves above other people, and put their own interests above everything. […]